Mystery, not History

One of the things we Queens must learn right away in relationships is that it is better to reveal less than more. Not just in the beginning, but even later down the line when you start getting serious. We all like to share about our sexual experiences, what we've done, who we've done, where we've done, how we've done. We'd like to be honest. We want to show our partners that we have experience. Or sometimes we just accidentally open our mouths without meaning to.

Do yourselves a favor: Keep that pretty mouth shut. Pointing out your ex at a club, telling your man you messed around with a mutual friend, admitting to indulging in S&M, ceiling swings and chandelier panty hangs in a frat house, fisting, gangbangs and other assorted party tricks should never be revealed.

Why? Because no matter how much he may say he wants to know everything and doesn't care (because now you're with him and no one can compare, right?), he really really doesn't want to hear it. Once he has that visual in his head, his mind will be permanently messed up. And so will your relationship.

Talking about the amazing sex you had on top of a Swiss mountain in just your ski boots will not only upset his ego, but will constantly make him bring up comparisons between himself and the other guy (or girl). Before you know it, these little confessions will start popping up in your arguments, because believe you me he will use them against you. Confessing to blowing David the DJ in the baño of SoundBar means all three of you can never be in the same space without a fight. He will be resentful at random "feeling small wee-wee" moments. Eventually, when things get really ugly, he will not only use it against you but start calling you unpleasant names that no Queen ever needs to hear.

Men want to believe that they are your first, your one and your only bedroom superhero. So don't be fooled by his curiosity, because even he himself doesn't know how much it ends up biting him in the ass.

But what about honesty? F*c& honesty! The truth hurts, taunts and torments any man with even a drop of insecurity. This means every man. "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" were words spoken by a true love prophet.

So ladies, let us go quietly and secretively on our virginal ways, and learn from the true sexual divas from past and present: Mystery, not history.

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