Premature Ejaculation

Are you tired of seeing your girl roll her eyes after you have lightning-quick sex? Relax: premature ejaculation (PE) is common and the truth is, almost every guy experiences this at least a couple of times during his sexual career. Technically, PE means you're coming sooner than you want or expect to during sex, you don't have any control over it, and it's making you feel bad. AND her. If every after sexual encounter you say to your date, "Oops sorry!" then that's PE.

Lots of guys have unrealistic expectations about how long they're supposed to last. The studs in pornos pound away for what seem like hours at a time, but that's all staged. Like average penis size, stamina in bed is vastly overestimated. In real life, most men don't last all that long - some surveys place the average lasting time before ejaculation at around seven minutes, which means a lot of guys really last less than that.

1) Probably the most effective way of dealing with PE long term, and the treatment most commonly recommended by sexual experts, is using a method like the stop-start or pinch technique to slow down your reaction time once you get turned on. First you masturbate until you get close to the point of coming, and then back off. This takes some practice by yourself first. Once you get that, you move on to using the stop-start technique during sex, starting and stopping your thrusting to prolong the amount of time before you ejaculate.

2) The pinch method is similar, but instead of just stopping thrusting, you actually pinch the head of the penis to delay orgasm. With your thumb and forefinger you apply firm pressure to the top and underside of penis head, just above the ridge on the top side, and just below the ridge on the underside. This puts the brakes on the ejaculation reflex. A good squeeze at the base of the penis may also do the trick.

3) Masturbate before sex. This can help by releasing sexual tension. Do it a couple of hours before you plan to have sex, not immediately before.

4) Distract yourself. Think of grandma, your dirty cousin, a math quiz . . .

5) Use desensitizing creams. Be careful how you use them though, because they can also numb out your female partner. Not fun for us.

6) No Pressure. Finally, one way to deal with premature ejaculation is to reduce the pressure that you feel to perform in the bedroom by focusing on other things. Learn how to finger fuck. Become a cunnilingus expert. Develop your other sexual skills and talents and you'll feel better and more confident about sex, and your partners will be more satisfied.

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